The Healing Process
Okay so I have just recently left a three year relationship, and with all the drama that was going on while I with with my partner I never thought that being apart would be so difficult for me. I mean I guess it does make sense I have been with this person every single day, conversing everyday since 2018 so it's hard to just abruptly drop a habit you have been use to for so long. One thing about me for sure I am one of the deepest lovers EVER (so annoying) so to go through this is so terrible I HATE BEING SAD. Like I literally shut down and block out the world when I'm sad, I don't mean to do it but that's just what happens. With this being my prime considering the fact that I am going after my dreams, going to school and adulting all at the same time I really don't have the time to shut down. I will not be letting this situation, this sadness, this pressure make me fold! At a time like this I need my HomeGirls, I will be documenting my healing process and my feelings once a week. I would love your advice and support at the time. Like I said before we are in this together though we are not the same I know that some of us might be going through similar situations or have, and are able to offer ideas on how they were able to move forward.
Boundaries
To start of my Healing Process I am going to begin with building boundaries with myself. I find myself uneasy being without a partner and though this was my first REAL relationship I have also been in other situationships where they have ended badly and crushed me. Then my little fast ass jumps into another situation with another person for that temporary feeling of happiness. I know it sounds terrible but i'm being real with ya'll. I have never truly given myself that time to heal, and to actually get to know myself. It really is hard as hell to be with someone if you haven't been able to be single for a while. Granted this is my opinion I just know for myself I struggle with having stern boundaries and this right here creates the room for confusion, doubt and unhealthy habits in relationships.
Below are TEN boundaries I will be setting myself for the next 30 days. Shit I already know this is going to be hard for me but it's all about mind over matter. I just know theres going to be light at the end of the tunnel y'all so bare with me.
"Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and your energy are precious and only YOU get to decide how to use them. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept!"
-Anonymous
Wake up early before 10:00am
Saying NO to anything that will keep you off track of what needs to be done
Find one activity to partake in that you absolutely enjoy
No dating for the first 30 days (no kissing, sex, etc)
Meditate for about 15 minutes daily
Focus on being more positive
FOCUS ON MY WORK
Don't take everything so personally (I am easily offended and dramatic)
Don't worry about what someone else is doing (no comparing to friends, dealing with friends drama/attitudes, worrying about what my ex is doing)
Reserve my energy, (not everybody is deserving of being around me)
Thank You For Reading
xoxo
-Lulu
